Showing posts with label respect. Show all posts
Showing posts with label respect. Show all posts

Thursday, December 4, 2014

7 Ways to Get People to Believe, Like and Respect You



There are some simple, yet often forgotten, business principles that can build a positive professional reputation and keep credibility intact -- for you and your business. Here are seven ways to convey that you are poised, polished and ready to conduct business with the highest standards of professionalism.

1. Be honest.

Unfortunately, fraud and scandals are too common in modern business. Your credibility is rooted in your ability to be honest, no matter the situation. Although you might be tempted to intentionally lie, misstate or misrepresent yourself or an aspect of your business, the long-term cost severely outweighs any short-term benefit. Even small fibs can damage or ruin your reputation.

2. Keep your word.

Your professional reputation is damaged when you don’t deliver on a promise. Every time you make a commitment, you have the opportunity to raise or lower your credibility quotient. Your word is all you’ve got. It’s important to be straightforward and upfront, letting everyone involved know what to expect before you start a new project. No one likes surprises. If you can’t complete a task before the deadline or stay within the budget, let clients know immediately. People tend to be much more understanding and forgiving if they’ve had advance warning.

3. Admit your mistakes.

Failure is an inevitable aspect of business. Though mistakes happen, successful managers and entrepreneurs understand how important it is to focus on solutions rather than obsess over problems.
To maintain a professional reputation as someone who is reliable and trustworthy, own up to mistakes as soon as they occur. Don’t attempt to cover up, ignore or minimize your errors or those of your business. Instead, take responsibility and find a solution. Always learn from your mistakes and then move on.

4. Be punctual.

Clients will evaluate you in part on your dependability. Most people will choose to work with someone who consistently delivers projects on time and on budget over someone who is talented but unreliable. Manage your time carefully to ensure that you never miss a meeting, deadline or commitment.
When meeting with clients or associates, arrive a few minutes early. Give yourself a buffer for travel to account for any traffic delays, inclement weather or difficulty with parking. If you arrive with plenty of time to spare, take a few moments to go to the restroom and gain your composure. Take advantage of your punctuality and build rapport with others who have arrived early. If something unavoidable happens to delay you, don’t make up an excuse. Instead, simply apologize. 

5. Don’t use foul language.

Choose your words carefully. What you say and how you say it can deeply impact how others perceive you. Using profanity and foul language in public can send the message that you are immature, impatient and lack self-control. Swearing in a professional setting will never command the respect of those around you. Instead, a foul mouth will isolate and alienate you from others. Don’t give clients, co-workers and customers an excuse to not work with you. If you find yourself so angry or upset that you start to lose your temper, walk away. It’s much better to excuse yourself to another room than direct your anger at someone else.

6. Handle conflict gracefully.

There will be times when you don’t agree with your clients, colleagues or partners. The potential for arguments and disagreements will always be a part of doing business. But how you handle difficult situations will reveal your character. If a client tests your patience or questions your authority, don’t allow the situation to ruffle your feathers. Try not to react with anger or take frustrations out on someone else. Instead, work with the client to find a compromise. When you’re wrong, yield with grace.

7. Don’t burn bridges.

The business world is tumultuous. Never speak negatively of a past client or business relationship. Your adversary today could be your ally tomorrow. In 1992, I lost my job to a department-wide layoff. Though it would have been easy to lose touch, I kept in contact with my former director. Two years later, when I was interviewing for a public relations position at the Breakers Hotel in Palm Beach, Fla., she was happy to give me a good reference. Her recommendation helped me get the job.
Relationships change and people may surprise you with a change in position or stature. The person you once took for granted may eventually turn out to be a powerful acquaintance. 
 Jacqueline Whitmore


Wednesday, June 4, 2014

The Lion In A Pack Of Sheep: 12 Ways To Be The Best Possible Leader

“You can do this,” I reminded myself, “You’ve led meetings before.”
This time, however, it was different.
This time, I was president and something about that title scared me. It came with so many expectations and obligations, and I couldn’t help but wonder if I have what it takes.
“It’s too late to worry about that, though,” I thought as I walked into my first officer meeting of the semester.
Serving as president of Beta Alpha Psi my senior year of college was challenging and exhausting, but always exhilarating. I faced many situations, which at time, felt like unnecessary burdens that I should have never signed myself up to handle. Looking back, though, I now understand that those experiences accelerated my development and provided invaluable insights about the meaning of leadership.
Since then, I’ve held various formal and informal leadership roles through which I’ve acquired 12 rules that have helped me define my role as a leader and understand how to better motivate and manage others:

1. It’s not about you

It’s not about you; it’s about your team and your organization. Your primary purpose is to serve them and keep their best interests in mind. Embracing this philosophy will change the way you view your role as a leader.

2. The foundation

The foundation of an organization isn’t its assets or technology, but rather, the people who run the technology and utilize those assets.
People are not one-dimensional. Every individual has a multitude of skills and interests that don’t always reveal themselves on the surface. As leaders, it is your responsibility to not let these talents go unrecognized and unused.
You must make the time to dig deeper, to truly understand others and to get to know them holistically. Only after doing this can you truly leverage all of their skills.

3. Challenge others to develop

You need to challenge others in order for them to develop. You can’t build muscle in the gym without pushing yourself to lift more, run more and stretch more. Similarly, people must be pushed to grow and develop.
As a leader, it’s your duty to play this role. You’re responsible not just for your team’s business success, but also for the personal and professional success of each individual on the team.

4. Criticize in private; praise in public

Do not try to make an example of others or blame someone else for a fault. It is humiliating for that person and will lose you the respect of some of your teammates. Criticize in private; praise in public.

5. Lead by example

Lead by example and do not hold people to expectations you cannot uphold yourself. If you want people to not text during meetings or to show up on time, you must follow the rules, as well.

6. Don’t be dismissive

Don’t be dismissive of others’ ideas without providing them with a chance to be heard. People often want to feel understood and considered, so do not trivialize their perspectives.
Take arguments into consideration, but don’t shy away from difficult decisions or necessary changes because you want to please everyone. When you try to please everyone, you end up pleasing no one.

7. Be resilient

At the same time, don’t expect others to always like you.
Decisions are rarely unanimous and most people are inherently uncomfortable with change. Whenever you institute new principles or implement different ideas, someone will inevitably disagree. This is not always a bad thing, though. If people aren’t complaining, you’re not changing enough. Be resilient in the face of criticism.

8. Problem solve

Be a provider of solutions. Problems exist to be solved, so don’t waste your time, or your team’s time, whining about it. Instead, focus your team’s energy (and your own) on brainstorming ideas and testing different options.
Do this repeatedly every time you face an obstacle — no matter how small or large. Your goal should be to create a culture of continuous improvement.

9. Listen

Listen more than you speak. Get comfortable with the silence that follows a question or a proposed idea. Moreover, learn to ask the right questions to get others to speak their minds and steer conversations in productive directions.
You do not have to be — and should not be — the driver of all change. Your objective is not to come up with everything yourself, but rather, to build an environment in which others can openly suggest, develop and implement their ideas.

10. Communicate

Don’t avoid tough conversations. The more difficult a conversation seems, the sooner it needs to happen. Postponing these discussions creates a snowball effect: The problem continues to grow, becomes more challenging and often, more costly to handle.

11. Have confidence and humility

Confidence and humility are not mutually exclusive, and great leaders have both. Confidence is about believing in yourself and knowing that you are capable of anything you put your mind to.
Humility is about believing in the power and potential of others. It allows you to empathize with, understand and trust others.
Harnessing the power of confidence and humility enables a leader to be self-assured enough to accept that you shouldn’t try to do or know everything. You should, instead, simply work to ensure that your team has all of the resources it needs to be successful. Your team’s success means your success.

12. Respect

You don’t have to be in a formal leadership role (e.g. a manager at work or a director of an organization) to be a leader.
A leader is anyone who makes a difference in the lives of others, regardless of whether he or she realizes it or not. Being a leader can be as simple as providing advice or exemplifying values others respect and desire to emulate.